The Cross Dresser's Wife - Our Secret Lives is a tool published for those women that need to seek out the help of other women that have been going through the same painful process of trying to understand their husband's desire for such taboo behavior, or such a sexually deviated desire. The book cites five true stories of women, each describing their firsthand account of emotions and circumstances experienced upon realizing the man they married had this hidden secret.
The stories within this book lack the obvious alternative for the wife to "cut their losses and leave," as help is the underlying theme. Help to those affected by the actions and consequences of having a husband, who is basically a good person, albeit with a psychological problem resulting in the desire to wear women's clothing beyond their willingness to stop - even when pleaded to change by their wives. Those men who knew of the hurt their hidden desire would have on their wife simply went "underground" by hiding their bizarre braziers, undetected underwear, perturbed panties, and misstated motivations.
Although written primarily as a resource for wives of CDH's, the appeal of this book does have a bit of a broader audience, such as those who would be interested to view an Oprah or Dr. Phil episode titled, "I Unknowingly Married a Cross Dresser." To those who have a CD in their family, this book, is designed to draw them in, opening a channel for dialogue and offering help and guidance through the stages of understanding necessary to cope with such behavior. Although, I personally feel this sort of situation would never happen to me, the thing that struck me was the same belief predominately existed within the normal dating and pre-marital relationships each of the women had with their spouse. It seemed as if once the knot was tied, the man's idrevealed itself in a way, step-by-step, either to seek acceptance and consent by their spouse, or to go underground with his clandestine desire.